Tuesday, May 26, 2009

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Hey if you are new to the blog and just stopping by to check us out click HERE to read about what our purpose is with this blog!

Glad you came by and hope you can follow us a while!

~Becki and Molly

Saturday, May 16, 2009

May is Foster Care Month

I keep hearing this statistic on the radio and I can't shake it.

There are over 10,000 children in foster care in Oklahoma alone.

I can't seem to get that thought out of my head that these are the "orphans" that God meant for us to look after.

Please pray for these children that they may find their forever family and will no longer have to question God's purpose for their life.

(Remember to turn off the music on the blog to hear the sound on the video)

Although they didn't mention the two adoptions we love to talk about, Jesus and Moses, I think it's a wonderful video to make us all think!

Thursday, May 14, 2009

I had no idea...

I had no idea that this incredible federal adoption tax credit was only temporary until Holden's mommy pointed it out to me!

That's right, it is to expire in December 2010!
We need your help in getting the word out that this tax credit needs to stay!
I realize most of you know of the cost of adoption. In domestic adoption it varies depending on the agency or attorney you are using, but typically it's at least $15,000. I am not saying it should be cheaper, in fact, I wish we could actually pay our agency more. They have an incredible ministry in adoption and pregnancy services. But, I am saying that the deduction is a great way to promote adoption. It's truly the only reason we have been able to adopt back to back like we have.
I am scared to think that if this goes away, we could not afford to adopt again.
Becki pointed out something else. If you are not really fond of tax credits look at it this way, you are either funding these children through DHS because they are not being adopted domestically because no one can afford it, or your tax dollars are used to help fund adoptions. And it's actually cheaper to fund the credit than DHS. She's such a smart thinker!
So here's how you can help...

Check out the bill that is in the beginning stages!

post this button to your blog:

Thanks for your support, yet again!

And in case you are wondering where we've been...
We finalized on Sadie's adoption on Tuesday and were focused on getting our stuff together for court!

Monday, May 4, 2009

This week....

This week - well if you have been blessed with children - this week is a fantastic week for you. You wake up every morning anticipating Sunday morning. When you will dawn your Sunday best, stroll into church with your children in their besties! You will stand when they ask the mother's to stand, and all the children will bring flowers, or sing a song for the mommies....But....

This week, someone is dreading this Sunday. They are dreading another year with no children. They are dreading heading to church, and are considering missing just this one sunday. This week, a birthmom is considering skipping church, because the thought of empty arms and no baby is just too much for her to stomach this year. But these people will probably go to church, hang their head when the moment comes and swallow back the tears that are all too familiar.

If this is you....know our prayers are with you. We have felt the pain of not being mothers or having empty arms. All three of us have been in that pew at one point in our lives. I know we are not there now, but we are familiar with the pain.

Today - we are asking for your thoughts....for healing for these women - the barren, the birth mom, the childless, those simply seeking adoption....e-mail us so we can post your thoughts to them. Or post them as a comment and we will repost them for mother's day....

And here's a little something for all of us as we have been in this place in our lives.


By Russell Kelfer

Desperately, helplessly, longingly, I cried;
Quietly, patiently, lovingly, God replied.
I pled and I wept for a clue to my fate . . .
And the Master so gently said, "Wait."
"Wait? you say wait?" my indignant reply.

"Lord, I need answers, I need to know why!
Is your hand shortened? Or have you not heard?
By faith I have asked, and I'm claiming your Word.

"My future and all to which I relate
Hangs in the balance, and you tell me to wait?
I'm needing a 'yes', a go-ahead sign,
Or even a 'no' to which I can resign.

"You promised, dear Lord, that if we believe,
We need but to ask, and we shall receive.
And Lord I've been asking, and this is my cry:
I'm weary of asking! I need a reply."

Then quietly, softly, I learned of my fate,
As my Master replied again, "Wait."
So I slumped in my chair, defeated and taut,
And grumbled to God, "So, I'm waiting for what?"

He seemed then to kneel, and His eyes met with mine . . .
and He tenderly said, "I could give you a sign.
I could shake the heavens and darken the sun.
I could raise the dead and cause mountains to run.

"I could give all you seek and pleased you would be.
You'd have what you want, but you wouldn't know Me.
You'd not know the depth of my love for each saint.
You'd not know the power that I give to the faint.

"You'd not learn to see through clouds of despair;
You'd not learn to trust just by knowing I'm there.
You'd not know the joy of resting in Me
When darkness and silence are all you can see.

"You'd never experience the fullness of love
When the peace of My spirit descends like a dove.
You would know that I give, and I save, for a start,
But you'd not know the depth of the beat of My heart.

"The glow of my comfort late into the night,
The faith that I give when you walk without sight.
The depth that's beyond getting just what you ask
From an infinite God who makes what you have last.

"You'd never know, should your pain quickly flee,
What it means that My grace is sufficient for thee.
Yes, your dearest dreams overnight would come true,
But, oh, the loss, if you missed what I'm doing in you.

"So, be silent, my child, and in time you will see
That the greatest of gifts is to truly know me.
And though oft My answers seem terribly late,
My most precious answer of all is still . . . Wait."


Just a quick update - and another blog coming super soon...but check Facebook....1000!!!!! That isn't bad peeps!!! In less than a week, we picked up around 300 new members!!! Way to go...keep it up. I will resist the temptation to push 1500...that is for another day!

Friday, May 1, 2009


We (the mommas) have a lot of dreams for POA. The legislation we have proposed is not the SOLE purpose of POA. The purpose of organizing POA is to do exactly that - Promote Oklahoma Adoption - by any and every means possible. So what does this mean? Well - here are some of our dreams....

1. Change laws to make adoptions easier on adoptive families and birth mothers.
2. Give a voice to adoptive families and birth families.
3. Raise money to assist those in adoption that could not afford to do so otherwise.
4. Help find services for birthmothers who have lost their way.
5. Have a venue/outlet for adoption issues - so that others might share their wisdom.

Those are just a few. If you are interested in "writing" a blog, being on our "adoption blog" list, posting your family and your story asking for prayers for your adoption journey and process - we don't care - just send us an e-mail and we will review your information and get back with you. We would love nothing more than to hear what you NEED, and what your dreams are for your family. Just reach out and let us know how we can help you.

Email is adoptok@gmail.com


Props to those who joined the facebook cause. We ALMOST met the mark 921 at the last count! Way to go - don't give up!!! Lets get to 1000! (but then you know we will be bugging you to get to 1500)....